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Ordinarily, it may not have been necessary to comment on such an issue but to a large extent it has do to with trust, faith and societal values so we don't have a choice.
Having watched and listened to the video/interview from the alleged victim, I began to imagine what was on her mind as at the period she made the revelations and thereafter.
For a married woman to come out and speak up in that manner within our clime if her allegations are correct is most commendable. Also for a Timi Dakolo to stand shoulder to shoulder with his wife at this point is commendable considering the utopian Nigerian mentality, stigma that occasions.
No doubt the presumption of innocence must come to play but having also flipped through the denial and response from Pastor Fatoyinbo it leaves more questions than answers.
No doubt that it will be very difficult to prove rape at this point looking at our legal system because it must be proved beyond reasonable doubt and rape can only be established with the slightest penetration, evidence of semen, tear, bruises etc and that cannot be done at this point as no forensic can deductively achieve that feat. It is my believe that the quest of the Dakolos is not conviction in court against Pastor Fatoyinbo but an espouse on some activities within the temple of God and that is preventive mechanism which doesn't have a time frame.
The first narrative or experience was clear. However evidence pointing to the second fiasco is shrouded with some impossibilities casting doubt on the credibility of the whole process but that still does not rule out the fact that someone may have been raped.
The question of 'why now?' or how the family managed the process still does not erode the fact that it "may" have happened.
My take is did it happen?Even if it was once, then why? If it didn't happen then what do the Dakolo's want?
Some said why is she speaking up after 20yrs? Does it mean that after 20yrs a rape case is no longer an issue or does sin have a timeframe for men of God. For me speaking up heralded her HEALING process. Congrats to Busola for her courage as she has opened a new Vista for many ladies living with the burden of brokenness arising from sexually related downgrade.
That it happened many years ago or that it has challenging evidence that may be difficult to prove underscores the need for us all to look inward cos sin is sin. It doesn't have time frame.
That it will be difficult to prove or that it does not add up according to a renowned jurist in diaspora still does not answer the burning questions.
Today, many more alleged victims are turning up repeating same nauseating experience from same character, so what is really going on? Is the house of God under attack, distraction or are we facing the realities as it where? What about many voluntary escapades that none spoke about? What about commercial sex well settled or those that are happy that a Saint did it to them?
I think we need to look inward ie beyond the court of law. We need to x-ray the burden of morality and preventive techniques. A pastor is next to God in Nigeria, it's a tragedy that we are living with. Our life and destinies are sometimes tied to these people. We also know that they are humans and fallible.
A lot of people in the Bible had similar challenges. David, Solomon, Samsom. Some even accused Jesus Christ in Davinchy code, So it is expected. But when we are faced with very persuasive evidence we must act and speak with restraint.
Today we have a lot of behavioural challenges some persons are paedophiles, gays, lesbians and some addicted to running after married women. These are behavioural and hormonal disorders that can be rehabilitated and I sincerely believe that this is where this issue falls under. "I was sick but I am better now", "yes I did it but that was in the past now I am a better person" or "yes I did it but its my predicament". I can assure that it's a softer landing rather than this watery defence that can only be justified by the indoctrinated.
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